There are two types of people in the world: those who love speaking in public and those who are scared stiff at the thought of it.
Performance anxiety and stage fright are perfectly normal phenomena that occur to many people. It is important for you to understand what stage fright is, so that you can fully overcome it.
Stage fright or performance anxiety is a persistent phobia which is aroused in an individual when required to perform in front of an audience.
So how do you overcome stage fright when speaking in public?
Know Your Stuff
Nothing will stop stage fright in it’s gripping tracks like being prepared. Know your content, your speech and more importantly your audience. If you know what you are talking about then you have no reason to be nervous.
Understanding your topic will enable you to speak more naturally and hence more confidently. Also, should a technical hitch occur, this won’t faze you as you are already confident on the subject.
Practice, Practice, Practice
Knowing your stuff helps, but it doesn’t necessarily eradicate the problem. You need to practice as much as you can before the performance or public speaking d-day.
Really know your content inside out and practice (preferably in front of a live audience) as much as possible to build your confidence.
Talk Yourself Down
You need to realize that even though stage fright is “all in the mind,” the fear manifests itself in physical ways. The best offence is to change your negative talk. Stop worrying about, “What if I forget the content?”
Change that into positive talk like, “What if I am great at this?” It may sound simplistic or too easy, but positive affirmation will go a long way in reducing stage fright when speaking in public.
Wallow in the Worst
If you can’t calm yourself down with positive talk, then maybe it is time you thought about the worst case scenario. Once you do this, you’ll realize that the worst case scenario isn’t really that bad. This might help calm your nerves.
Visualize the Outcome
Call it what you will: reflection, visualization, meditation. Whatever you call it, just do it. Spend time visualizing yourself giving a perfect presentation and speaking in public – filled with humor, warmth, confidence and intelligence.
The more you imagine being great, the more likely you will achieve it.
It is Not All About You
Though you might feel like everyone is out to laugh, criticize or judge you, that is not the case. Get over the feeling that the world is going to hang on your every mistake.
Focus on your speech, audience and what they deserve from you. This will ease the pressure that is already accumulating.
When Things go Wrong
Sooner or later, something will go wrong. Your projector or microphone might stop working. If you already know your content, then chances are that this won’t faze you as much. If, for instance, your microphone stops working, don’t stress over it, carry on with a louder voice. Chances are the technical people are already stressing and working to sort the problem out, so you getting worried over the same issue won’t help.
Keep Calm, Don’t Rush It
Don’t rush your presentation. Start slow and allow yourself time to get into a comfortable pace. You need time to get used to the audience and the audience also needs time to get used to you.
Focus on Getting Through the First 5 Minutes
Imagine your entire presentation is only five minutes long. This will make it less stressful. Focus on just getting through the first five minutes and by this time you will have already calmed down and the rest is downhill.
Never Apologize for Being Nervous
Three quarters of the time, no one will notice you are nervous. Why tell them? You may feel yourself shaking and shivering, but your audience might not be aware of it. Don’t mention it. It will make your audience nervous too and they will be too worried about your performance to get much out of your presentation.
Don’t Share Your Mistakes
You have prepared, practiced and feel good about your speech or presentation. Suddenly, on stage you realize you mixed the order of topics or you forgot an important point. But remember, you’re the only one who knows about this. Your audience doesn’t. So, don’t make them aware of a mistake that they didn’t even know existed. If you bring it up, some people might start looking for more holes, which ultimately distracts from the whole purpose of your presentation in the first place.
Arrive Early
Obviously, if you are late, this will only heighten your anxiety. Arrive early and acclimate to your surroundings. You can even check out the stage and the auditorium as get yourself used to the environment.
Stretch
If you are nervous, odds are your body will be stiff and your muscles tight. Fifteen minutes before speaking in public and going on stage, do a few stretches. This will loosen the tense muscles and relax your body.
Breathe
Nervousness is always accompanied by fast, short breaths and if this is not addressed, it will throw you off balance. Minutes before you go on stage, take some slow, deep breaths, so that by the time you get to the stage your breathing is relaxed.
Double Check Everything
Do you have a laptop or notes? Check that everything works. When you walk on stage and suddenly realize that you forgot your notes, it’s too late. Of course, your nerves will take over. Know your speech or presentation so well that should this happen, you can continue without a hitch.
Don’t Fight Your Stage Fright … Work With It
You have to expect and accept the fact that you will feel anxious, especially the first few minutes of your presentation. The more you resist your anxiety, the more it will work against you. Again, focus on the presentation when speaking in public and the anxiety will slowly ease off.
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Aira Bongco
Practice can really help. I have done this before and it helped me know what to say when I run out of words. Sure, it doesn’t eliminate the nervousness but it can help.
Raz Chan
Great article Antony. 3 suggestions I will add is:
1. When you arrive early is stand by the sign in table or where the guests come in. Introduce yourself to as many as you can. This will allow you to make a personal connection before you hit the stage.
2. Also sit at the far corners of the room to see if the audience can see or hear you from those spots.
3. Get to know the event staff from the audio person to the servers. Make friends with them. You don’t want the servers banging trays around during your presentation.
I second the ‘breathe’ advice! Focusing on taking a breath allows you to pause and mentally gather yourself.
And look into Toastmasters. It changed my life (and killed my fear of public speaking.)
Allie Lambert
Hi! I am a magician (that is quite an odd job for a girl) and I have had stage fright since I can remember. I decided to follow Steve Allen’s method and one month later I feel really confident =)
That is what worked for me because it is easy and goes to the point, guiding you. But any method that suits you will do. The thing is that you must pick a method that makes you read AND take action!
You can find the one I used here https://showbizcoachblog.wordpress.com/portfolio/how-to-beat-stage-fright/
But I believe any of the methods that exist will do if you go through it seriously!
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Taya
“Visualize the Outcome” doesn’t help when you have anxiety
Anita Campbell
It takes practice, but I’ve found it does help me. But you really have to get fear out of your mind by replacing it with a positive vision of a good outcome. 🙂